Killing The Scoreboard – Part 4 – Find it Interesting
The one thing I find fascinating about sports is how many kids I talk to who don’t follow the sport they play. I realize there are varying degrees and personality types but there is an alarming percentage of kids who don’t really care about the sport they are playing.
I once had a player on a high school team I coached who had no idea who Babe Ruth was. I was dumbfounded.
I continued to rattle off names and he had no idea who anyone was.
Not a single player.
I asked him “How do you not know any of the players who have played the same game you do?”
He said. “I don’t watch baseball”.
It turns out he never read a book or watched a single program about baseball. He wasn’t even interested in it.
One of the main tenants of cultivating a craft is interest. You have to find what you are doing interesting. There has to be a sense of wonder and awe at the thing you get to do.
So many times we become focused on success. We only have one question and it’s “What can I get out of this?” or “What can this do for me?”
There is no curiosity. No desire to learn more, or delve into the unknown.
You have to find what you are doing interesting.
In order to find what you are doing interesting, you have to find the world interesting.
The world is a far more interesting place than we realize. There is so much going on, so many people, places, and things that exist and we are moving too fast to see.
If you are not fascinated by what you are doing then you might be doing the wrong thing.
If you don’t marvel at the way your craft comes together then it isn’t your craft. You most likely are doing it for the wrong reasons. If you are a player it could be because your parents forced you into it or because you are looking for something to do to pass the time. Maybe, at one point, you were interested but you’re not anymore. That’s ok, go do something else.
If you are a parent maybe you didn’t felt the need to provide and that lead you down a path you didn’t really want to go but the money was better. Maybe you realized you were “good” at something and you wanted to continue to be “good” at it so you sacrificed your desire for “goodness.”
It could be that you have forced your child to play a sport they have no interest in
Maybe because you played that sport and that sport didn’t give you what you thought it should.
Are you are trying to get your kid to attain whatever level, accomplishment, praise that you were not able to?
Let It Go
If what you are doing doesn’t get you up in the morning then let it go. Discover what will.
There is something that even if you are bad at it, you could do it over and over and over and it would bring you life.
So let’s talk practically. If you are a student then you might be saying “I can’t quit, we are in the middle of a season” or “I have invested so much time in this if I quit then I will have wasted all of that”.
An adult may have a different thought. “I have to provide for my family” or “You don’t understand, I can’t make a living at that”
Ok, here is the deal. Those may all be true statements. You may be in the middle of something you can’t quit or in a situation where you have to put food on the table. Those are noble thoughts and there is nothing wrong with them but, you can take steps.
Maybe you finish what you have committed to and then look to do something else. Maybe you decide that this job isn’t worth the paycheck and you are going to find something that brings you joy and fulfillment.
There are a couple things to keep in mind:
1. It’s going to take a while. That’s ok. Things won’t change overnight but you can take a step in the right direction.
2. Find what you love. What you love to do might be in addition to your job. You might have to set aside time to do the thing that brings you joy. Maybe you work in a job that can afford to fund the one thing you love to do.
3. If you are a student. Maybe you go to school and study well so that you can build up the skills and work ethic to be able to do whatever it is that brings you joy.
For me, I have always found baseball interesting. Baseball is the thing that has continued to get me out of bed in the morning but it wasn’t always like that. As a child I loved it. I had a burning passion for it and I wanted to consume as much of it has possible.
As I got older I had experiences that knocked me down. I found other things I enjoyed and wondered if baseball was still the thing I wanted to do.
I ventured out and tried other things. Had experiences and explored other opportunities.
Baseball is what I kept coming back to. I finally met a man who really embodied coaching as his craft. He was so fascinated by it and it wasn’t from a mindset of wanting to achieve fame or success. It was just an unbridled curiosity for the game. He knew he didn’t know everything nor would he but he has dedicated himself to the furious pursuit of that curiosity.
So I learned from him. I coached with him. I asked him thousands of questions. I paid attention to what he did in certain situations and I began to understand. I began to develop my own curiosities.
That’s how it happens. Slow. Methodical. Inch by inch.
Craft is a life long process. There is no end. Not ladder to climb. No race to finish.
It the unyielding pursuit of the thing you most love.